It’s inevitable that a lot of us experience break-ups in our lives, but hopefully our grace, dignity and humility all remain intact. That can’t be said for Tessa (Katherine Heigl) in the upcoming thriller Unforgettable, released in cinemas April 21.
Tessa Connover (Heigl) is barely coping with the end of her marriage when her ex-husband, David (Stults), becomes happily engaged to Julia Banks (Dawson)—not only bringing Julia into the home they once shared but also into the life of their daughter, Lily. Trying to settle into her new life, Julia believes she has finally met the man of her dreams, the man who can help her put her own troubled past behind her. But Tessa’s jealousy soon takes a pathological turn until she will stop at nothing to turn Julia’s dream into her ultimate nightmare.
To help you steer well clear of crazy ex territory à la Julia, read on for the warning signs and fix your behaviour before it’s too late…
1. Making too many visits to your ex’s house
How many trips could it possibly take to collect all of your things? Or what favour do you really need to ask of your ex that nobody else can help with? Whether you’re brave enough to knock on the door or have become a master of just happening to be walking by, this is not a good habit to get into. Showing up unannounced doesn’t do Tessa any favours either; especially when she sees things she doesn’t want to see…
2. Paying more attention on your ex's love life than your own
Now’s the time to concentrate on you, not get all wrapped up on what your ex is doing and who they’re with. Take Tessa for example; she spends all of her time preoccupied with David’s comings and goings that it just pushes her ever closer to breaking point.
3. Tricking yourself into thinking the relationship was better than it was
There’s no point looking back with rose-tinted glasses. Even though being on your own can be hard, you have to stay strong and get through it. Tessa still thinks her old life was perfect and that Julia has ruined all chances of getting it back, but it’s time to take a reality check and leave the past in the past once and for all.
4. Seeing your ex suffer brings you happiness
How low can you go? Just because you’re not happy doesn’t mean it’s ok to wish that your ex feels even worse than you do. Tessa just can’t let go and is incapable of standing back and allowing David to move on and build his new life with Julia. Don’t be that person.
5. Reminiscing about the good times, all of the time
As a wise man once said, nostalgia isn’t what it used to be. Add to that the often-true idiom that an ex is an ex for a reason, and you start to get a sense of just why reminiscing about the good old days could lead to some seriously crazy behaviour over time. Tessa just can’t seem to change the record, and it’s heading in a dangerous direction.